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The Art of Lingering
The Art.. of Lingering
When she holds your eyes for just a few seconds longer than social niceties, and the corners of her lips turn up a light smile..
When he fixes your hair or clothing, and his hands stay a little longer, as if he didn’t want them to leave your body...
The “Meet-cute” in a movie, when hands accidentally brush, and you can tell by the look on their faces that it is as if electricity has pulsed between them..
When you hug your friend and you hold tighter for just a micro-second more..
This.. is the art of lingering.
A New Years Flashback
In the past month I have supported clients with:
Tuning into and supporting the feminine flow
Using their sexual energy to open up their capacity to love themselves and serve the world
Utilizing breath, sound, and movement to encourage longer-lasting pleasure and performance
Having their first full-body energetic orgasm
Viewing partnership from another perspective
And so much more..
Another Kind of Magic
Another kind of magic..
There is another kind of magic. Found in the humdrum of everyday life shared with someone you love..
Fears and Triumphs
Sometimes I panic with the not knowing, the lack of answers or models, and that when it boils down to it,
I am creating my life.
And that is the scariest reality of them all.
And also the most exciting..
Honoring Women
Her:
"I am so ready to feel good in my body"
"I feel sensation in my body I thought would never return"
"This was beyond what I could have imagined."
"I am going to talk to my pussy all the time!"
"I have never said those things aloud"
"It was like you were my sister through a rite of passage"
"We (women) should be doing this all the time!"
Sex Positivity
In three years of deep diving into people's desires and sexuality in my business, the most common thing that comes up for me is surprise...
Suprise and wonder in the sheer range of human needs, desires, and expression. In direct opposition to the cultural scripts we have been taught.
More Spaces for Women
It felt so easy, so pure, so natural. Every person there said the same. Female bodied humans that have felt uncomfortable in co-ed spaces shared that it felt effortless and stress-less. Each person left feeling rejuvenated and their cup filled or overflowing with care, and the reaction was "more." More of these spaces, more of women's special medicine for the world, and more of this sensual, non-sexual intent, even with our male-bodied friends and loves.
This space, created for and by women, is not only good, but it is necessary.
Hiring a Dominatrix
"Things aren't going so well with my business," she said. "No matter what I do, I can't seem to make money.." Conversation ensues about her blockages.
Three months later: "I figured it out.. I love pain, so in the absence of a play partner, I inflicted it on myself in my business! So, guess what!? I hired a Dominatrix to whip my ass! I am making so much fricken money now!”
The Best Dirty Talk
These are the words I received… "Hey Love, I've been on the phone a lot today, but I want to be in your world."
Swoon..
Dirty Talk doesn’t have to be “dirty.” The best dirty talk can be sweet and caring, demonstrating your desire to love and cherish another, and that can be the biggest turn-on of all.
My First Podcast
Many of my clients have asked me about my journey to get here... and why I do what I do.
I usually point them to this podcast, my first EVER podcast!
I was shaking so hard during this podcast… And in some ways it seems perfect. After all, tantra and conscious sexuality is so much about being all of you (messy, beautiful, real) as you authentically are in that moment.
Why the Erotic?
Why the erotic/ sexual? Why THAT topic!?
People have the wrong idea of true eroticism. Our culture shows sexuality where focus is on physical stimulation alone...
But...True eroticism requires deep alignment of our minds, bodies, hearts, and soul-self…
12 Relational Commitments for Deeper Intimacy
Then I realized.. that there was nothing wrong with me. Or this person. I was just offering something that they did not want, or could not give in return… And I naively thought that their rejection must mean that I didn’t have value, instead of a more accurate truth- I was offering a value that was not recognized or returned by the human in front of me.
Myths about Penetrative Sex
Myth: All people should want (and prefer) penetrative sex.
Fact: Many people PREFER (or are at least available for) other types of sexual play or intimacy that do not involve penetration- cuddles, making out, energy play, massage, food play, power-play etc!
A ripple effect...
“Tantric Massage is a sacred practice that I truly believe has profound impacts on this world.
It's the act of going into safe sensual and sexual places that Forces us, to be honest, vulnerable, to grow, to explore, to expand, to let go, and to be fully ourselves. That is the practice.
A Cuddlist Cuddling Cats
I am officially Cuddlist Trained!!
I have always love touch-therapy sessions and now, I get to add Cuddle-Trained to my repertoire!
Serendipitously, I went to get cuddled by cats not long-after, when my twin came to visit for my birthday!
A Lifetime in Two Minutes
To me, dance IS TANTRA....
It's that moment when you are listening so close to what is happening inside of you, that the space between the two of you becomes a universe in itself.
And the smallest micro movements transport you into the most beautiful sadness or the most profound ecstasy…
Moving to Austin, TX
"I've been known for one thing
I come and then I go
Now the days turn into weeks
You and this town are growing on me
We could put some roots down
We could put some roots down…
Erotic Freedom
Dance, singing, art- they are all practices that help us get in touch with our bodies and ourselves.
So are tantric practices...
But tantric practices (specifically more intimate/sexual ones) vs these other practices: Are like a torch vs a match. Or weight-lifting vs yoga. Or meditating on a busy street in NY vs a calming yoga studio.
Dance & Tantra
Dance just might be my favorite tantric practice.
For me, it's a practice of truly listening- The building of my desires- to move, to flow, to be. The inspiration of the music and what it stirs inside myself and another. The sensation of the lightest touch on my arm. The mini check-ins with the human moving beside me.
Your Own Disney Character
Dreams. Action. Love. Purpose.
Disney seems to capture the inner desires we all seem to have…
This week I was gifted a trip to Disney with a favorite client- getting a chance to talk about all of this and more, and it made me reflect on the magic in my own life.
