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Why the Erotic?
Why the erotic/ sexual? Why THAT topic!?
People have the wrong idea of true eroticism. Our culture shows sexuality where focus is on physical stimulation alone...
But...True eroticism requires deep alignment of our minds, bodies, hearts, and soul-self…
A Lifetime in Two Minutes
To me, dance IS TANTRA....
It's that moment when you are listening so close to what is happening inside of you, that the space between the two of you becomes a universe in itself.
And the smallest micro movements transport you into the most beautiful sadness or the most profound ecstasy…
Moving to Austin, TX
"I've been known for one thing
I come and then I go
Now the days turn into weeks
You and this town are growing on me
We could put some roots down
We could put some roots down…
Erotic Freedom
Dance, singing, art- they are all practices that help us get in touch with our bodies and ourselves.
So are tantric practices...
But tantric practices (specifically more intimate/sexual ones) vs these other practices: Are like a torch vs a match. Or weight-lifting vs yoga. Or meditating on a busy street in NY vs a calming yoga studio.
Dance & Tantra
Dance just might be my favorite tantric practice.
For me, it's a practice of truly listening- The building of my desires- to move, to flow, to be. The inspiration of the music and what it stirs inside myself and another. The sensation of the lightest touch on my arm. The mini check-ins with the human moving beside me.
When we Sat in Silence
From the moment we first shared time (cuddling for an hour and a half at my cuddle party), it was as if everything faded away and there was just us, breathing together, our heartbeats syncing almost immediately. And everything got so beautifully... quiet.
Love doesn't have to be loud and fiery and chaotic. Sometimes the most profound love can be quiet, slow, and seemingly endless...
Pleasure is the Measure
"Pleasure is the measure of sexual wellbeing. NOT how often, or who with, or even how many orgasms you are having... It is whether or not you enjoy the se- you are having." -Emily Nagoski
This is why I love the tantric practice. It allows us to let go of goals/expectations, be open to finding pleasure in what is real in the moment, and teaches us transferable skills in bringing pleasure to all aspects of our lives, not just in the sexual.
It’s Probably Just the Context
Doing something that isn't really your jam, and then feeling anxious/ upset/ out-of-place, and then telling yourself it's your fault and something must be wrong w you...
Is like a bird diving into a fishbowl, not being able to breathe, and then blaming himself. "I'm defective," he says. Furthermore, telling yourself "if I only could adapt” …
